What About subdrop and After Care?

i don’t usually write two posts together, but i believe the discussion of subdrop and after care should be discussed with discussions of subspace (see that blog post here) as the two go hand in hand. 

After a trip into subspace, my body and mind are left depleted. Physically, i am left weak, usually with a drop in body temperature, tired and incapable of tending or recognizing to my own needs. Mentally, my mind slows down a lot, my emotions are all over the map and often conflicting, and i am left yearning for tender comfort and praise.  

This is where aftercare becomes crucial.  Depending on the session that brought about such extreme subspace, after care looks different within O/our relationship.  That being said a few things are constant- if i need to walk anywhere, Master is right by my side to ensure i do not fall, Master helps to keep track of and tend to my basic needs: being clean and warm, making sure that i have nourishment, and that i am hydrated; and possibly most important of all, Master always makes sure i feel loved and appreciated. 

Without these crucial moments of aftercare while experiencing subdrop, i would be left feeling abandoned, alone, used, or even possibly physically ill from not having my physical needs met. 

What is Subspace?

A commonly discussed topic is subspace. Some people believe it is a myth, but for me, it is very real and being allowed to experience it is a great reward that Master occasionally uses as Positive reinforcement for a streak of positive behavior. 

The best way i can explain what i experience in subspace is a mindset fueled by adrenaline that allows me to become a “perfect sub” with almost no pain threshold, gag reflex, or limits.  There is a major mind over matter that happens and a simple suggestion from Master makes things that are otherwise difficult or painful feel possible and even pleasurable.  

W/we actually found out about subspace on accident.  During a rather intense play session involving bondage and funishment (spanking/impact play for fun), suddenly my body  felt different and i was blessed with amazing stamina, persistence, motivation and focus on the task at hand.  Master said i looked different-more determined.

 After our session ended i felt even stranger. When i moved it felt almost like i was in a pool, that weightless but moving requires more effort feeling. Suddenly, my mind was flooded with emotions; happy, sad, confused, content, proud, ashamed… The list goes on, but you get the idea.  It was utterly terrifying as i had no idea what was going on, and niether did Master. (For more on this- called subdrop, read my other blog post.)

After that night i continued my reading and learned that what i experienced had a name-subspace.  From what i read it was relatively normal. The more i read the more understood and became more comfortable playing with Master that intensely again.   As i am able to fully understand it, and Master is able to help me through it with proper after care; it has truly become one of my favorite rewards

Each time Master allows me to find my space, W/we connect a little differently.  Every time is an exercise of trust- trust that He will use my body and service to His satisfaction, trust that He will help me reach my limits but not force me past them, and trust that He will help me return to my normal self in a loving way. 

After my recovery W/we always discuss what went on and how W/we both feel.  After that important discussion, i always feel more loved by and closer to Master.